The Five Regrets of Dying

     In 2009, an Australian palliative nurse named Bonnie Ware wrote an article on her blog describing the biggest regrets of the terminally ill patients she had taken care of during her eights years as a care giver.  She had no idea that more than six and a half million people would read it.  She titled it:  “The Five Regrets of the Dying.”

1.   “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

      This was the most common regret of all.  Instead of living the life they really wanted, they waited too long and more than half of their dreams were never realized.  

2.    “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”

       This was said by almost every man as they regretted missing their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.

3.   “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”

        Most said they kept their feelings to themselves to keep the peace with others.  Many developed illnesses related to bitterness and resentment.  

4.    “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”

     Many had become so caught up in their lives they lost track of their friends.  They deeply regretted not giving friendships time and effort.  

5.    “I wish that I had let myself be happier.”

        Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.  They stayed stuck in their old patterns and habits and life literally passed them by.  Now it was too late.

       Does this list look familiar in your life?  Do you ever say, "One day I'm going to do __________.  Are you making the most of the life God has given to you?  Like an earthly father, God wants His children to be faithful, but also happy.  God loves you and wants to bless you; however, God cannot steer a parked car.  Happiness is truly a choice.  Now, it's your turn.  It's not too late.  May god's love be with you.